No More Playing in My Face: Setting Boundaries for a Healthier You
Hey, y’all. It’s time for a real talk about something that is necessary for our mental well-being: setting boundaries. At 42 years young, I've learned one hard truth — letting people play in your face is a recipe for disaster. It's about time we stop allowing folks to mistreat us and treat us any kind of way. I’ve been there, done that, and I’m here to talk about it, so you don’t have to repeat my mistakes.
Boundaries are Important
First things first, what are boundaries? They’re the emotional and physical limits we set to protect ourselves from harm. They’re not walls; they’re guidelines that help others understand how to treat us. When we don’t establish these boundaries, it's pretty much an open invitation for people to walk all over us. Trust me, I know. I spent years allowing folks into my life who didn't respect me, and it led to a whole lot of hurt.
Don’t ignore the signs
One of the biggest red flags of not having firm boundaries is when people start treating you like you’re disposable. They say things that diminish your worth, make promises they never keep, or just disappear when you need them most. When we allow this behavior, we send a signal that it’s okay. It’s like giving them a free pass to mistreat us without any consequences. We can’t keep letting people slide by just because we’re afraid of being alone or uncomfortable or because of their title or length of time in our lives. We can’t allow people to deliver half ass apologies attached to no accountability and continue access to us.
Standing on Business
It's time to make folks stand on business when it comes to us. This means being straightforward about what we will and won’t tolerate. It’s about saying, “No, that’s not acceptable,” and sticking to it. Setting boundaries is not about being harsh – it’s about being honest and respectful to yourself and others. When you stand firm in your values, you’re sending out clear messages: “I deserve respect, and if you can’t provide that, then I don’t need you in my life.” Don’t allow people to force you into accepting whatever they have to give you if it’s not acceptable to you. Stand on business about yourself!!
Find your Tribe
Now, I’m not saying it’s easy. Breaking the habit of allowing mistreatment can feel intimidating . It takes courage and self-love to cut ties or stand up for yourself. But let me tell you, it’s worth it. When you eliminate toxic people from your life, you make room for those who uplift you, respect you, and hold you accountable. Surrounding yourself with people who respect your boundaries is crucial. Find your tribe – your people—those friends and family who encourage you to be your best self. Share your feelings and your struggles with them. They’ll remind you of your worth when you start to forget. Remember, you’re not on this journey alone.
You Deserve The Best: Relationships Included
At the end of the day, we all deserve to be treated with love and respect. Don't let anyone ever play in your face. Recognize your worth, set those boundaries, and stand firm. It’s a process, but every step you take toward holding people accountable for how they treat you is a step toward a healthier, happier you. So, let’s embrace our power and refuse to accept anything less than the respect we deserve.
Until next time, take care of yourself, and don’t forget that you are worthy of all the good in this world!
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